Children.

Submitted by Fyldefolly (United States), Mar 29, 2009 at 07:34

Although I have not read all the entries on this blog, those I have read never seem to mention the way children born before this relationship started can affect it. Especially, those relationships involving an age gap - older women/younger men.

Your children grow up - your daughters grow in to young women - they are nearer in age to your 'partner'. THINK ABOUT IT!

Two real life examples:

Through my Tunisian, now, ex-husband I was introduced to two young men going to live in the UK with older spouses (red flag). Both went off on their merry way. Shortly after, one of the young men returned. Why? Because he had been pursued by the teenage daughter of his wife; given in to her advances; and been caught! As he only had a temporary visa - he had to return to Tunisia - all within 6 months.

A young Tunisian man started talking to me at the Airport on my way home (I was alone as I was only there to sort my divorce). He was meeting his older British wife and her two teenage daughters, and was told (red flag - he did not know I was getting a divorce) she came from the same town and lived very close . I knew this young man by sight, as I had seen him on several occasions with his wife and her daughters. Over time I had seen the relationship change between this young man and the elder daughter, as she got older. When her mother was not around - which was frequently - the pair acted as if they were the ones having the relationship - you can draw your own conclusions on that one.

So ladies, BE AWARE!

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