mixed feelings,

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Apr 23, 2009 at 06:09

hi everyone -back from trip- i was due back last week and the damn tickets had the wrong date- wouldnt let me board flight and had to stay another week which threw everything into turmoil. but opened my eyes to a lot more as this wasnt expected.

my friend was charming affectionate and perfect gentleman - i received the gifts he promised which was clothing.i met his family, his sisters and their families and his brothers. he did live at home with his other two brothers. .....the first week was like a holiday - went on trips to street parties met his friends and was treated with high regard amongst all, i was introduced to all his close friends from work and welcomed in their homes. i had to get the orfi paper....... after two days there - this i had to have and let me tell you there is no way you can get away with not having it!!!!! if in the company of an egyptian guy -we was stopped by the tourist police on two occassions , and at check points on the west bank and also when swimming in the nile the tourist police came and spoke with us. This has its plus side as i got everything at egyptian prices, entry to all the tombes and sites are at the egyptian rate and not tourist, you also get clothes, shopping and taxis at the same rates, the minus side to it is you have the damn orfi, which gives a european no rights at all as far as marriage is concerned its just a paper.

the second week well- different!! as unexpected - my friend was back at work so i was alone with my daughter -but he sent his brother to babysit me every day. i was told not to go out and speak with anyone, if i wanted shopping to send his brother, i felt a little claustraphobic , and got agitated to the extent of his jealous behaviour, he questioned who i had talked to he checked my text on my phone and he was over anxious about me being alone and he needed family to be with me,.i felt this a little too much. he telephoned me two or three times from work to see if i was ok, and i do believe he does care for me, but i witnessed a very different side to him.

he wants me to return later in the year , he wants me to grow my hair - not go the the gym as often as im fine as i am, and bring gifts for his family such as clothes , etc - im being told what to do -why????

its a mans world in egypt -the women are indoors locked away, they are beautiful ladies who dont have any other purpose than to bear children , and look after the man - the european ladies give the man the excitement , money and sex , this is what i have learned. i do love my friend but i know that to live with any muslim guy would be a life of solitude within the family unit. this cannot be taken lightly if you are an independent lady who has a good life in her own country.

i need advice on another issue but private -i think ;luigi would be best if i can have an email to send for reply -

xx

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