Malay States Info and Ethnic background on international marriage, Muslim

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 23, 2009 at 19:41

Hi there us woman:

Malayasia has 13 different states. In reference to my earlier comments, I seem to have given the impression that either states practice sharia law or they do not. The Sharia court system in Malaysia supposedly applies only to Muslims. According to CIA estimates, Islam makes up about 40% of the religion there, there are significant Buddhist and Christian minorities.

It seems to me that the problem isn't whether or not your man is in a state that practices sharia law, but the fact that he is a Muslim would allow him to use the sharia courts because he is Muslim. The fact that the both of you are foreign nationals complicates the situation, though. I'm not certain if Malaysian courts have the same gumption as Iran or Saudi Arabia to prosecute Americans. Most of the time, when you run into legal trouble in another country, the first thing that comes to mind is to just send you home. Most countries prefer not to raise international incidents for risk of damaging national interests.

In any case though, be assured that pretty much any court that even remotely takes sharia seriously puts you at a major disadvantage if you are a Western woman.

I would also like to say that yes, there are many stories about Moroccan men on here, but be assured that scams like this are against Americans are universal in the Second and Third World. I've had women from Russia to Nigeria try and get into my wallet.

On asking for money----it's pretty rare for people to directly ask. Usually, it's more along the lines of guilt tripping you.

On the whole, what you have to consider about moving to Malaysia is that it's really noting like the USA. If you've never been abroad before, the culture shock can be quite overwhelming, especially if you are going to a poorer area.

I can understand you attraction to this man, us woman, and I have no doubt he is coming across an all-round nice guy. But, didn't the last man you talked to on-line do that too?

The thing about meeting people on-line is that you are only getting a mere fraction of the communication from him that you would in person. That is the primary reason so many women come on here----because they are not sure either way. That's just your feminine instincts taking control and guarding against male nonsense.

As a guy, us woman, I can say that talking over the internet or even the phone makes a guy much more confident than in person, because he knows you can't completely tell if he is lying or not. Besides that, you can only determine so much in terms of if you are truly attracted to this man without meeting even if he is 100% honest. The reality is, there is an amount of diminishing return without meeting him.

He is probably the most practical, down to earth man I've ever met. He's very laid back, relaxed, etc. from what I've seen on the net anyway.

I think it's important to note what you said here, us woman. The reality is, you have not met this man in person.

What I want you to ask yourself is if another man you met on-line hurt you, why are you so eager and anxious to do this again?

Also, are you planning to marry him right away?

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