I ended it...it's over.

Submitted by Pandora (United States), Apr 29, 2009 at 14:18

I think the final straw was seeing how it was affecting my daughter. That, and knowing that my instincts were telling me he was lying. I've read so many stories since my first posting and I saw myself in so many of these women. I thought he would harass me day and night, texting, but since I said the word, not a peep. Which to me proves what Luigi and Yasemin have been saying--that he was a visa hunter.

Warning signs for me:

1) Asks me to be quiet while speaking with his family.

2) Constantly pressuring me to marry/move in (after knowing 1 week).

3) Living with 2 women, seemingly unrelated to him (one who barges into his room on a regular basis--sounds like those two were or are involved).

4) Says he has a college degree in economics but cannot tell me anything of his studies (and he's 27 and just starting out here).

5) Said at first he was going to NYU then I later found out he was going to a business language school a couple of towns away. He talks of his coursework there as "bs" and can't tell me directly what he's been learning.

6) The first movie we see together is "The Message", which he cues up on my computer.

7) Says he loves me but can't name one thing about me that is the reason(s) he feels so.

8) One text to me read "I want to dominate you in life". I laughed at that, but a part of me shivered.

9) Answers routine questions about his life that my friends posed to him defensively and acted guilty around them (before we had gone to dinner at their house, he pressured me not to go there. I now know why).

I could add more, but I think you allready get the picture. I'm ready to move on with my life and next time date smart!

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