Hi everyone just to remind you what to look for if you are unsure

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), May 3, 2009 at 18:46

hi there

i was just reading here and thinking of my past experience with my egyptian user. i am feeling good i got rid of him, he pursued me for a while with i miss you i love you etc even though he had others and was telling them the same things, so it just shows you what love means to some of them. i will remind you of what some of them say, do and want as its common language to them with western women ( those in resort areas with low paid jobs)

telephone number? very quick to ask

expecting you to pay for restaurants, everything because they have no money and want you to feel sorry for them

saying I love you too soon

I like your face you have magic eyes, i like your mind

very attentive to bordering OTT( red carpet treatment)

you are beautiful ( thank you i know i am ha)

asking for e.mail( to add to his list)

pretending to cry but no tears when leaving in airport( i see this now)

bombarding with texts and calls saying i love and miss you when you coming back

asking to stay together in next holiday they will get a room but we must marry first at a cost from you!!( beware of Delta Sharm in Sharm) i since found out they have prostitutes there.so which rooms are those?

excuse for not meeting you at airport ( there is 2 in sharm ...is there?)

no money on holiday again "i have no money i am sorry!

asking to bring gifts/designer items( i admit i took 1 phone in 18 months not as a gift he said he would pay me, ( did he? noooo money) then lost it 2 weeks later

losing gifts( to the highest bidder)

out of work several months but can always ( when it suits them) ring and text and look very smart in designer clothes( from their brother abroad!!!)

want to get married and live in england forever with you but will live in egypt ( for now !!)

asking for money but not at first ( he got none from me)

phone battery dead cant answer phone/ no credit( when it suits them)

been in hospital no contact( but cant give a diagnosis just a vague answer)

been in prison as he was defending you from friend( whaaaaaaaat!!!)

net keep closing ? then back on, go to another cyber half way through?

dont sleep thinking of you, dreams of you every night?( is he asleep or awake!)

habbibti, habek owi, ( i love you) youre my first love, my wife, my heart, kisses hugs for 1 hour, you have beautiful smile, my life

teaches you arabic, talks about not talking to other men/ no bikini on beach/ no alcohol/ etc( i suppose this is his culture but signs of controlling)

please come soon then pressure to get married family love you but not met them yet ,they are happy for son to marry older woman? ( i wonder why?)

only one wife children dont matter ( believe me they do and they will take a second wife for this or use this as excuse to divorce you in your country)

on net asking you to change clothes for bed( strange as i did not do anything inappropriate)

serenading you in arabic

then gets another woman because you not go back to see him quick enough! but still wants you to go back as friends to see him( money supply, got to keep it coming in))

this familiar? i suppose yes its all still in my head but its easier now and yes i was stupid as he was so so sweet and loving that you cant beleive all that crap happened, he covered his tracks so convincingly despite the nagging feeling in my gut but i was so in love with him i deluded myself. So ladies its a great feeling to be loved but its like winning the lottery only to find its all fake money!

red flags- dont ignore them as i did, but i saw sense and told him to politely go away with his other deluded woman. if it feels right then i wish you all the best, if it doesn't then somehow break away, its not easy but you have to do it or you will end up brainwashed and crazy with doubt

all the best x

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