To Becreative

Submitted by Fyldefolly (United States), May 10, 2009 at 10:30

I apologize for the internet reference - I forgot you only e-mailed him 'occasionally' - which technically is the internet! So yes, you have been in contact via the internet, but not in the way I stated.

My comments still stand regarding the money though.

You appear to have fallen heavily for this guy already; I completed understand why; they are so 'what you want' in a man: PERFECT!

I have my own experiences and observed many others in your situation - but if nobody wants to take your advice, you cannot make them.

The money question may crop-up again. The value of the presents you are expected to take over and the amount of money you are expected to spend while there certainly will; especially if you do not give a large lump sum. Why? Do you realise how much it cost to 'entertain' you while you were there; how much respect will be lost by him and his family because of the lack of money you do not provide? Money = Respect, however it is obtained; and if you don't provide the money and expensive presents they will have far less respect than before they met you. They will be laughing-stocks amongst their community.

You seem to think that this is a 'lover's game' - it is NOT to this guy and his family - it is a better life for all of them, and it won't be given-up easily.

I hope you have more luck than all the other souls who have been lied too, cheated on and stolen from in the same situation as you are now; but later on down the line.

A very old, true and wise saying: If it is too good to be true, it probably is.

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