The greatest concern with this Egyptian, Muslim man and marraige is:

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 12, 2009 at 21:22

Welcome back, Just me!

Here's the problem:

He responded by saying no, in this time we should get CLOSER to each other, and come to a "fair deal". ...but I think what I proposed is pretty fair.

Listen carefully to what this means. What he is counting on is you falling for him so that he can have his way. It's as simple as that.

From what you have said, he may or may not be a scammer, but what is quite clear is that he is NOT willing to compromise.

This is where you need to step back, take a breath and relax.

For one thing, I'm not so sure that serious talk about marriage is a great idea, and it kind of rings the bell of quick marriage because if he feels you start to hesitate and pull away, it's a safe bet he'll push for you two to get married soon.

Just_me, you've done a nice job of listening to posters on here, and I, for one, appreciate that. I know this is not easy for you. But the reality is that relationships with cultural differences need compromise, and if he is not willing to do that even now, it will NOT happen in the future, because people don't like to change, even for love.

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