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Submitted by Just_Me (United States), May 12, 2009 at 22:55

Here's some more story. We've been talking 11 months so it's not such a short time. But I've talked with other Egyptians in Cairo who they themselves warned me about scammers and what to ask them. So, following the advice of these Egyptians, I told my Egyptian that I wanted to remain in Egypt and not get married to someone unless I had been with that person for 3 years prior. He said he wanted to get married in 2 years, and I said 5...although none of it was ever serious on my part. When I said I wanted to live in Egypt he said "won't you miss your family?" and although he wasn't against it, he just said I should think about it carefully. Whatever that means. He seems excited that I'm coming to learn Arabic though.

In regards to his land, he offered to take me there and I declined. Yeah I've always thought he could possibly have another wife out there, but I won't beat myself up with "what if....". I 've even had 2 short relationships while I've known him that he doesn't know about (3 months each, in the beginning when we first started talking). Now that we have seen each other twice and know each other more...I would feel a little guilty to get a boyfriend. But knowing him isn't holding me back here. I go out to dance, I meet people, etc.

Isis---Maybe him and his friends were joking because I am American, not because I'm a "second wife". I forget who posted about the Orfi document, but yeah I know the law in Egypt, that's why I stayed in a flat and not a hotel or a tourist location. We were only questioned once when we entered the Egyptian Museum in Cairo, otherwise we did not have any other problems. And I saw 2 other foreign girls with Egyptians, one was English and one was Russian I think, they were both older ladies with guys who were like 19. I met a friend of his from college (a girl) and we get along very well. I asked her if he had a gf/wife and she said "No, he doesn't even talk to girls, he is very shy". But who knows, maybe he is married and she doesn't know either. Every time he gets back from his land I ask him "so how is your wife" and he laughs and says "I'm not married, wallahi" so who knoooooooows. :S

Is it custom for a man to ALWAYS wear his ring if he is married? Or they don't have to wear it if they don't want? I looked at his fingers when I was there and it didn't look like he ever wore a ring, not that that means anything.

In regards to marriage and children, yeah I didn't think he would consider compromise at all. His mind from what I know is 50% open and 50% traditional.

BTW his education, he studied 3 years to be a lawyer, but changed to tourism because he didn't like the faculty of law. Yeah I know, I think he should have become a lawyer too. He's in his final year of tourism. Overall, he wants to own his own restaurant...which I don't know what tourism has to do with that...maybe he is a scammer and wants to get a foreign woman to send him money for his "business" while he meets tourists on the side at the hotel he works at... ? lol....

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