To Lost In Austin

Submitted by Just_Me (United States), May 12, 2009 at 23:34

Hey,

I have family in the south of Italy. When I was visiting, I met a guy and we decided to have an exclusive relationship long distance. In a year's time, I went back to Italy twice to visit him and my relatives. He told me he was only with me, but he wasn't, he was also with some girl 10 years older than him and she had a child. He told me once that I should follow my dreams and do what I wanted to do (which at the time was taking a job where I traveled and wouldn't be able to visit him for 9 months). He told me I shouldn't see him because he loved me so much to let me go and follow my dream, however, it was a lie, he just wanted to get rid of me. I'm not saying that is what your man is saying, he might love you enough to let you finish school before he comes over, but keep that in mind that maybe if you are busy here, he can be 'busy' over there if you know what I mean.

I say you let him try to come here on his own, or you could learn French, move to France, and be an MD over there :D. Beware of his family though, they might not be the best people morally, or maybe they are wonderful, I have no idea. But my guy's family in Italy would tell me they think he is with another girl, but they would never confirm it. It was always "I don't knooooow. I don't know what he is doing or where he is" when in fact they knew he was out doing something bad.

I wouldn't bring him to the USA as much as you want to. He is educated, he is well off, he can find a way to come here legally without your help. And I think that is a good sign he is trying on his own. Either he really wants to find the "American Dream" or he wants to be with you, which is wonderful.

I'm confused as to why he is sending some other girls thousands of Euros when she's in another country? I read over that part, but I didn't really get it. What is the full story on that? Unless she's a relative, that's not a good sign. I wouldn't want my man sending another girl money for any reason if she wasn't family.

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