isis and just me

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), May 13, 2009 at 18:27

as i have recently been in the orfi situation - with regards being able to spend time with my friend who is now named husband and im named wife (only in egypt ) - because of situations, and pressure from other sources that i dont wish to go into-it was required and necessary and ,i am now part of a big family and called sister and treated like a daughter. But............this orfi is so contraversal , it gives no protection for the women, but allows the man to feel ok about any sexual element and also in the islamic culture surrounding relationship between man and women. He can rip it up and divorce you as if you never existed - i know all this but,......... I have a question tho regarding the aspects contained in an orfi -if there are conditions??? or a dowry involved?

im quite puzzled at certain points in the orfi contract. can there be certain elements wrote into the contract?? i wish i could have a proper translation of mine, as i dont trust the lawyers., Also if you are married eventually at the MOJ - can you have conditions wrote into the marriage contract agreement purely for yourself - example...... to take no other wife unless you know about it??? financial security etc - its so complex and i have done a lot of reading up so far believe me. it would be a good idea to have an independant organisation in place in egypt or uk that looks after the welfare of certain individuals ,its hard to collate all the information you need in a mixed cultural relationship and is quite exhausting.

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