Algerian Man - Signs - Did he come clean?

Submitted by Willow (United States), May 17, 2009 at 14:48

I dated an algerian man for over 6 months. Within the first month I made him show me his greencard. More so because I had read some horror stories and didn't want to be used. I knew he had been married before and divorced. Story was she left him for her high school Sweetheart.

We broke up and he basically told me he didnt want to feel tied down because he may go back home in a year or 2 and not come back and I had children and he knew I couldnt travel blah blah. I kept asking me over and over to forgive him and would I still be his friend. Could never quite forget what he was wanting forgiveness for. He swore he did not have a wife and kids back home. He never took any money for me. He made the statement I knew a LOT about immigration and how people worked to get Green card..etc.

All was okay - felt he was doing me a favor and then he shows up a week later where I am and as my friends describe it as a scene for a movie he is all apologetic, he tell me he loves me grabs me in front of my closest friends. I had missed him terribly but had not made any contact. Well we crippled along and finally had what I consider I hope true heart to heart. He said that I was a really good person and he wanted to be honest in the fact he was going home for 2-3 months for he had not been home in 7 years. He also would be going home every year. He said the decision was mine to stay in this relationship but he knew I would find a good man of which I deserved. He said he never lead me own by talking marriage. Although he made a couple of statements such as marrying in the mosque.

I grew up very fundamentalist Christian and would laugh him and say I dont think so. He even asked me if I still loved or felt anything for my old boyfriends, that he loved me dearly. My question is does this sound scammy?

1) He would never show me where he lives for he had 3 roommates and said it would not be appropriate to go there when any of them where there.

2) Do you think he has a wife and kids? Do people with out immediate family really go home every year. he is 1 of 14 children in his family which appear to be very tight knit. he often refers to sending stuff to his sister which always made me think that could be the wife based on reading here.

3) Do you he did come clean because he knew I was too smart to be scammed.

4) I am way over analyzing this whole situation? Should I be pissed or thankful..

I am a bit emotional but feel its the best thing.

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