re: other wives

Submitted by annonymous american (United States), May 17, 2009 at 15:53

Mostly it seems they say the don't want a second wife, & it probably won't come up until AFTER you are married unless you have him sign as part of the marriage contract that he will not take any other wives. Even still, there are secret marriages, or Orfi marriages, that you may never know about. An Egyptian book "The Yacoubian Building" & a true story "Princess" of a Saudi Princess, has these scenarios in them.

They will say the "don't want" children with you in many cases because they do not intend on staying with you. It is easier to walk away from the marriage if you've done nothing wrong only if no children have been born from your marriage. Most of the women I've seen in 3years+ marriage who are suddenly left alone after he has what he needs, have no children.

In my own situation the guy I was involved with for over 7 years always said no way when I asked about second, third or fourth wives. He said one was enough, and the he preferred only one wife & convinced me that he would never consider other wives. However, after 4 years,... he said he wanted a traditional Egyptian wife as well as me.

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