Move on WIllow

Submitted by Isis (Australia), May 17, 2009 at 20:15

Hi Willow - my initial feelings and in regards to your questions are as follows:

1) He would never show me where he lives for he had 3 roommates and said it would not be appropriate to go there when any of them where there.

Secrecy in a relationship just does not equate to being honest with the other person. You need to ask "What's he hiding from me?"

2) Do you think he has a wife and kids? Do people with out immediate family really go home every year. he is 1 of 14 children in his family which appear to be very tight knit. he often refers to sending stuff to his sister which always made me think that could be the wife based on reading here.

There is a great possibility that he has a wife and children. Middle Eastern men are generally marrried by the the time they are 30. And yes, families are very close so there is nothing unusual about him wanting to visit them every year.

3) Do you he did come clean because he knew I was too smart to be scammed. and

4) I am way over analyzing this whole situation? Should I be pissed or thankful.

This man has a controlling and desperate nature and I advise you not to waste time and energy on trying to understand him. Secrecy is big red flag and if he can't be honest about his room mates or where he lives that's not a good start. He's obviously not the one for you. I'd be pissed. Move on.

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