Sympathy and men

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 18, 2009 at 12:00

Hi there Aussie!

Hope all is well Down Under :)

Let me just say that if a man is trying to get sympathy (minus some rare emergency I should say) from you, he is looking for affection and thinks that pity is the way to your heart.

I have gone with the assertion that sympathy and pity do not equal attraction, but it can work wonders for getting something you want.

My concern here is though is

1. Your reference to bewildered's list. This tells me that the man you are seeing fits that profile at least to some degree

2. Stumbling on this blog. The reason this always gets my attention is because if you feel the need to come and search about your relationship (and advice for it) on-line, there clearly is a lack of trust. Let me clarify that this is entirely understandable, and I am glad that you are sharing this with us, but I also want you to stop and think about why you are doing this to help you figure out what's real and what isn't. And I also realize that posting on here and opening yourself up on here probably is not the easiest thing you've ever done.

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