tp pauline

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), May 20, 2009 at 01:35

Hi pauline

Since I had a relationship with an egyptian man for nearly 2 years I have learned an awful lot on the reasons why these men charm their way into our lives. A lot of these men spend much time in the internet cafe's looking for their victims for a way out of the country. I am certain you are not the only one he talks to. I tend to use the word buisness because thats what most of it is.

Lets face it, these men are on the computer declaring their undying love to someone who they barely know from another culture wanting to spend the rest of their lives with them? even saying they dont want children! A muslim man is expected to have children, it fills half their religion and plays a very big part in their lives, so if they cant have children with one woman believe me they will divorce you or take a second wife for this. If you read the response I recieved from Isis May 18 there is a fine example of one of the ways we are used. If they had money they would be getting on with their lives and looking after their families without the need to charm western women.( I suppose they would in person for sex and fun only) Its easy to get swept away with all the romance, sweet words, his gorgeous looks etc and this is what they bank on, beleive me, it is very heartbreaking to leave once you are smitten, you will find you put up with excuses and think he is different, I did!

All I can say is its a big risk to take and he has nothing to lose, its them that gain in these situations and they stick to you like glue which makes you think they have deep feeling for you. Sorry to be blunt but I can see now the familiar pattern in these men but you will want to beleive in him, like I did, its like a dream come true. Please research into how these men operate, read the comments on this blog, dont think we are just a bunch of bitter women we are not bitter but much wiser and we are here to save people from losing money, heartache, and destroyed self esteem. Its a risk to venture into these relationships, they can be relaxed charming and will take all the flak you throw at them because they are not risking anything only gaining. So, look out for the red flags, one already is he dosen't want children! if the peices of the puzzle dont go together then its a waste of time trying to make them fit!

wishing you well in all you do

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