NEED A WAKE UP CALL!

Submitted by amelia (United Kingdom), May 20, 2009 at 16:05

I have been talking to a muslim man for just a few days now that i met online.From day 2 he has said he loves me and asked for my views on marriage and said that if we meet and it works out he wants to marry me. He has also said that he wants us to have children.

When we discussed what would happen if we got along and wanted to futher our relationship he went on to mention that if we had children the goverment in the uk would have to issue him with citizenship ect ect. He is not a rich man in fact quite the opposite but i am not very well off either.

He seems a really nice genuine man in search of the right woman. But how can you love someone after just 2 days without having first met them? Is it even possible?\I have read the awful stories here and do not want to end up on the same boat. Should i continue and see how things go or end it before it can go any futher and he plays with my mind and feelings?

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forgot to add this guy is 33 and i am 36.The most important things to him from what i can tell is faithfulness and he has said that if we meet and go futher that i must be for him and only him and marraige is quite important to him..Also we were to meet abroad but he has since said he will have a problem getting there as his boss will not up his salary and owes him money.Ok a bad idea for me to offer for him to go and pay for everything but i did suggest this.He said he would feel bad that our first meeting would be on that basis and refused.I still have to find out whether or not he will take the offer up lol.He spends all night online to me and then goes to his friends and he has said he stays between his friends house and his parents.He seems to have been very upfront about his financial situation,he works part time for very little and has said he is poor.He usually goes online to me from the shop from 11pm to 7.30am but when he should be sleeping i have noticed that he visits the same dating site he contacted me on yet never signs in to messenger.I haven't developed any feelings for this guy as yet thankfully.He doesnt seem to bothered about kids as i had an ectopic pregnancy resulting in 1 of my tubes being removed slightly reducing the chances of getting pregnant and this does not bother him he says we should leave it for allah to decide.Ladies?

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