Hello All!!

Submitted by Pauline (United Kingdom), May 21, 2009 at 07:05

Firstly thankyou for all your replys, much appreciated!! I think i must have wrote it wrong, this egyptian man, has been working in Abu Dhabi for nearly 2 years, i see him on webcam when we talk, he lives in staff hotel accomodation, as he is a chef there. He has not asked me for any money, he has money, as his wages are his own, he gets free accomaodation and food and laundry etc. He gets one month holiday a year,and then he goes back to egypt to see his family ie, mother brothers. He also says he has a apartment there, that he owns.

When i first started to talk with him nearly 4 months ago, he said his plan was to save money in abu dhabi, and go back to egypt and open a restaurant, as he is a chef, when the time for business is good! During the months we have been talking, he has said he wants to be with me, and all the usual talk about love,and would like for us to be together.

Because i have MS, my health is not great, so i told him i would not go to egypt to live, only as a holiday maybe, and to be honest, its the last thing on my mind, i am happy here in uk. I also told him, i dont want marriage, or chidren, as i am 41, and been married before, and now divorced, and i am not going threw that again, and my views on marriage, are dont do it, just live together!!

So if he wanted marriage, then dont waste your time with me, he said its ok, we can live togetherand maybe after 2 years, if we are still happy, then maybe we can do it then?? Then the visa question arose, he said if i dont want to go to egypt, then he would come to me, at that time he said he had worked in usa, he went there on a visiting visa, which his brother who was in the army at the time there,his friend who was also in army, arranged for him, basically got him visit visa??

Whilst he was there, he got a job and then applied for work visa for one year????? Does this make sense??I dont understand about visas? I didnt think that anyone could apply for work visa, if they entered into the country on a visit visa??? Anyway, he tryed to tell me that it is easier for him to get uk visa, if he had usa visa, because it shows he has travelled and worked there, so it would work in his favor???

He says that a work visa to the uk from abu dhabi will cost 20,000 uae, and that includes the embassy fee if they find him work here, so he has a job to come to?? He has not asked me for the money for this, he says he will pay all!! My relationship with him has strained, and i dont talk with him as much now,he knows i am suspicious, and is constantly asking me, why i dont trust him, and believe what he says, ha ha. I know there is no future with him, but breaking away from him is hard, why ha ha.

Thankyou allxxxx Pauline

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