Some clear trends, Pauline---Please read

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 21, 2009 at 11:19

Hi there Pauline and welcome!

I read both of your posts and the second one really concerns me. This has all the markings of a visa scam. Think about it: his visa is about to expire, and he all of a sudden wants to marry you. A quick marriage is always a bad sign.

Also, Pauline, I want to make it absolutely clear that you are not being paranoid. A lot of women who post on here have the same feeling, and it's just your feminine instincts guarding against male BS.

I can certainly appreciate and understand why you like this man, Pauline. I have no doubt he is attractive and may even treat you better than other British men have.

The problem is that the more experienced scammers and liars will wait until you are emotionally invested in the relationship before they pull something like this. They do it because it makes it harder for you to say no.

What you are going through is difficult, but it's probably more common than you think. I once had a Russian woman tell me she loved me without meeting me.

For someone to say "I love you" without even meeting you is just ridiculous, as is the suggestion of marriage. The thing is, Pauline, distance communication over the phone/internet/mail only gives you a fraction of the communication you would get on a real date. Just a fraction, and that fraction gets smaller unless he is 100% honest, which just doesn't happen.

For instance, you can't look into his eyes, feel his touch, or mirror his movements, ect. I mean, you don't even know if your phremones will be attracted to this man without even meeting him.

This is why those feminine instincts of yours are acting up. There simply is not enough information for you to process this, and with distance relationships, the mind loves to play up possible scenarios.

I would say that it really is time to break contact with this guy. I don't expect it will happen all once, but please take some time to consider what is being said on here.

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