Response to Willow on Algerian man and marriage talk

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 21, 2009 at 13:22

Hi there Willow

The discussion that you and him had back and forth does not surprise me. A lot of men in these situations will often get mad, even threaten to end it all (a trick they use if you are emotionally invested so you'll come charging back into his arms). The other angle is beg relentessly or in your case, to work the angle "you don't wanna be WITH ME."

For him mentioning that he would marry another woman expecting a divorce really shows kind of a person he is: a user.

Then again, Willow, there is the chance that he is still married and as you said, you are indeed the mistress. Either way, it's a lose-lose for you.

Whatever the case is, clearly he's on the defensive which suggests some shady behaviour to me. It doesn't always make perfect sense and it's pretty much impossible to know for 100% certainty even after you get married. Marriage and children are by no means the finish line in these scams.

Hope this helps.

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