Re:Pauline

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), May 21, 2009 at 14:09

since my post, i forgot to mention that he has told me his passport expires in 5 months, and he has to renew it in dubai? It so happens that it is in 5 months he wants to come here to me, if visa application goes ok! Yesterday, he told me that a english friend he works with, has told him.that if i go there for 2 weeks we can marry and he will get visa quicker?? ha ha, i am very suspicious that he even suggested this? I told him, that i would never marry anyone i never met before, no matter how long we had been talking online. He said he would marry me, in that time because its me?? ha ha

Oh its so hard to know if he is a liar, or just after marriage for visa?? When i said no i would not marry him like that, i would not marry anyone till after we had been living together at least 2 years, he got angry, and said ok, i will not renew my passport and go back to egypt to start a business (a restaurant ) .What is he playing at, plz tell me someone? ha ha, i think he wants visa?? to marry and get uk visa?? what you think?? remember, i have ms, and he says he wants to be by my side and care for me? ha ha, he is a very nice man, as far as conversation, but i know they all are? How do i know if he is genuine??

Thanks all plz reply, i would be very grateful xx

Please dont get offended but try to analise maybe with a councellor help why you landed in such a abusive and manipluative situation it is really heart breaking to see that women with issues are falling prey to online predators...

One "no" from you and he got angry ? So imagine if you would meet in person, you probably woulnt dare to deny him money, wedding, visa, sex...so on...

Everything you know about him are just HIS words...He may not be rich, may be married with kids already...Egyptians travel to Dubai to do the lowest, menial jobs- thats why they prey for women online- educated, rich men have so many other pass times and you must remenber that islam is a differnt culture in fact it is another planet- people dont meet via internet- and it is rather not allowed for girls/women to talk with men online- one Saudi girl was even murdered by her father for chatting on Facebook...

Also the weird stories (in general, not your case)- his passport expires, he doesnt like the USA/ West, he is rich, educated, his relatives are doctors, lawyers, he has 3 degrees, he is still a virgin, he can get visa without your help, he doesnt ask for money but makes you offer by hints that he is in trouble, tales from 1001nights really, he has a bunch of sick realtives, has to pay for sisters weddings, had a car accident, military wants him, have to leave a country, doesnt respond your calls for some time, he is nice and then angry for no reason, he claims to be an owner of a business despite young age- all signals that the guy may be a scammer...

Please - wake up Pauline...

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