wow! fast mover

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), May 21, 2009 at 15:20

Hi Amelia

first how did you get talking to him? were you looking for someone on a dating site? Anyway even if you were, this is moving way too fast. Talking about love, children, citizenship after only a few days!? Where is he from? Think about this, how can he love after a few days? He seems to know having a child with you will get him into your country., usually this comes a little bit further down the line so I would really be on my guard as he is being very direct in his goals.

My guy wanted me to have a baby too, after 18 months he moved on because I could not afford t keep going back to see him, so sweet words , promises etc mean nothing. A lot of these men are always in the internet cafe;s talking to many women, mine swore he only spoke to me at the time, now we are finished i see him on line every night til the early hours of the morning. Many make their living off the net scamming women for money etc, inviting them over declaring undying love, if only a few respond then hey they have some easy money.

If he is telling you he is poor then this is another bad sign, they play on your kindness in hope that you will offer money or pay for things, many of the women on here have given or paid for things out of a good heart because they love their man , and these men know that once you are in love with them they can get you to hand over the cash or gifts.

Even if they don't want money a visa will do! Its all give and they take. Yes they all seem very nice men charming, romantic, caring, attentive because they are in that buisness for the same reasons and it is called social engineering. You dont see respectable muslim men with good jobs higher up the social ladder in the internet cafe's talking to women declaring love after a few days or weeks. Sorry to be negative but i feel this is the truth. I still can't beleive my muslim man was a player as he was an absolute charmer, not in a cheesey way either, he was so good at what he said, sooo convincing, but I followed my gut feeling in the end and said on yer bike. He still wanted to be friends saying i love you while he was with another!

Read the comments, do some research to how they prey on western women, especially older as they think they own property.

good luck and follow your head

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