Pauline, sociopaths, useful site for everyone

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), May 22, 2009 at 15:54

Hi Pauline

To be safe, I think you and many others should pay a visit to this website: www (dot) lovefraud (dot) com

If your man displays any behavior indicated on the site, or anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, or if he says anything that doesn't quite "add up", you may be dealing with a sociopath.

And believe me, they're not nice people to be dealing with, although they may appear to be the nicest people on earth. They especially thrive on the internet.

These are in my opinion the reddest red flags:

- the passport dilemma. This dilemma is commonly used, he wants you to pity him & possibly offer him either money and/or a means of obtaining British citizenship

- The "english" friend. Honestly, Pauline, I doubt he even has an english friend. He is merely trying to demonstrate to you that he's got other english contacts, to either loosen you up or make you feel threatened or jealous. Yep, he can pull scenarios out of his hat - next he'll probably tell you he's had an intense conversation with Prince William

- he wants to marry you and he wants it fast. Meaning! he has a motive. Marriage never happens that soon unless a) you're doing it for anything other than love and security, or b) you're Britney Spears. Increase the red flags if you met online

- he got angry. Sociopaths or other emotional cheats get angry when things don't go as planned. If he loved you, he would accept that you need space. Ask him "what's the rush?"

- you mentioned a business. This is SO common in international love scams. The man gets the woman to invest in a "shared" business to make the pair of you "rich". But in time, you'll be financially drained by him for as long as he needs your sponsorship, before he moves onto his next prey, perhaps behind your back.

If he lives in Dubai, well it doesn't necessarily indicate wealth. Most workers in Dubai are foreign, mainly from Asia and North Africa, where they seek better pay and vocational benefits. Never part with any money! In egypt and islam in general, no respectful man asks his wife for money, if anything HE has to provide her with clothes, money and financial security.

I don't think he is genuine, Pauline. Usually I like to play Devil's Advocate & see both sides of the coin, but I can't see any positives here. I would love for him to be a wonderful addition to your life, but most genuine intercultural relationships don't start and pan out this way. I'm sure he fills something in in your life , but this is what they thrive on. The woman could be the most beautiful, educated, intelligent person but if she has something missing in her life (love, companionship, gone through a hard time etc.), society's predators will reap the benefits of filling that gap.

Oh, I'm sure he's an angel - says exactly what you want to hear at exactly the right time (unless he slips up) but this is why love scams are so successful. They really can fool even professionals & authorities. I'd get out while you can.

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