Thanks Luigi - Pls listen ladies

Submitted by Willow (United States), May 23, 2009 at 15:42

thanks Luigi for validating what I indeed was thinking. I think we often overlook things or try to justify things because we are scared we might be discriminating when reality is it's behavior we would not stand for with men from our religion and culture.

I made sure up front he showed me his green card of which he got very defensive. I was very lucky after a few months he beg me to forgive him but he said his plan was to go home for a while. He made a point to say I am a good woman and very open along with my friends that he wanted to tell me versus changing his number or disappearing. Now if someone is just going to visit their family we would not have a problem but he has made it obvious and a big deal(RED FLAG)Well of course I am thinking what's the big deal..but their were several conversation where he discussed he talked to his sister sent my sister hoopla i think validates he is married. He even one time showed me a bunch of photos but I remember distintly 1 of a bueatiful woman by herself and asking where was her husband (Red Flag) Although I asked him many times he swore he had no wife but if he is 39 i am thinking he is going to find one when he goes there. That is their culture!!! We did get togather again and he told me The decision was mine. He grew up extremely religious (Red Flag) because he is going in the end marry a muslim woman and have sons. I do feel like he had some remorse on trying to use me until he got left and starting backing down when I told him my last boyfriend of which was amercian litterally put me over the edge due to the lies and deceit I found out.(Another Red Flag - he tells me this when I am telling him this) I don't want to find out something else. I did end it of which he hung up on me. In that conversation he said over and over he didnt think he was the right person for me - I told him that he knows himself more than me and I would accept that and move on. he over and over said to forgive him and he wants to be my friend. (who needs friend like this) My point is you think you will not get emotionally attached even though the red flag but you do. No one wants to be at the begging end. Him hanging up was uncalled for and disrespectful. I am glad I had sense to read this stuff, I thought i WAS ok knowing he already had Green card.

I honestly can say I am done - he had been pulling away - I suspect lining up his next victim these are typical excuses - I had to work late, a person quit having to work extra hours to my cell phone battery died. It's hard. Thank God I realized before it was too late. I am not overweight, very sucessfully professionally - but I think he was just looking for sex - which when I think made me feel very degraded(Red Flag).

p.s his story was he grew up really poor and sometimes was hungry - a huge reason to get out of his country.

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