To Pauline re knowing good from bad

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), May 24, 2009 at 09:11

Pauline, you asked how to tell a good egg from a bad one. Here are a few major warning signs:

He says I love you VERY quickly.

He talks about marriage very early and even before meeting. Living together isn't allowed in their culture - it's considered to be filthy - he's saying he'll do it because he doesn't want to lose the chance at getting a visa one day through marriage to you.

Large age difference and the woman is significantly older.

Inability of the woman to have children ( or unwilling) - having children in this culture is extremely important.

He talks about wanting a visa. Pauline it may be that he wants to be in the UK but could also want to go to the U.S. and needs to show proof he's been accepted by another first world country. My husband couldn't manage to get a visa to the U.S. so his plan was to come to Canada and then try to get a visa for the U.S. He thought that being in Canada would make the U.S. work visa easier to obtain.

Perhaps women with stories that have happy endings didn't have these warning signs. But you DO have a lot of signals that should tell you to end this. You should be asking him many questions if you choose to continue to talk to him. How well do you know him ? And keep in mind that if you meet his family, his family may be part of the scam.

Unfortunately your egyptian is showing all the signs of a con artist. I sense that you are either hesitant to tell him goodbye or want to know for sure before dumping him. Unfortunately you can't know 100% for sure but after reading your story I can say with 98 % certainty that this is a scam and you are being used.

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