Mesmerized to an Egyptian Man

Submitted by amber (Philippines), May 25, 2009 at 22:43

Hi bewildered. Guess, it took a lot of will power, determination and strength to walk away from someone you really love. When you invested so much time, effort and emotion it's harder to forget and move on. His presence is totally addicting and you never know exactly when to stop. Anyway, I just want to share my experience about this wonderful Egyptian man I meet online. I was having my thesis proposal about online dating and why it proliferates despite the risk. By the way, I am pursuing my Masteral Degree in Communication. As expected I have to experience this so called online dating, to gather first hand information instead of relying to second hand testimonial of friends and colleagues. I was adamant if this cyber relationship could really thrive despite the distance and difference of culture, beliefs and even religion. All along I thought, everything would just be purely academic.

Expectedly, I have to pretend like someone who is really open into a cyber relationship. And then I meet this man. Would it be impossible to say, that I was mesmerized the moment I saw him on cam. He has this manly good looks, naughty smile and deep mysterious eyes that almost made me breathless. I am Asian, from the Philippines so obviously seeing exotic looks is very common. But I just have this indescribable feeling that I've know him all my life. I also thought that he could be my soulmate. At first his message was sexual in nature. Obviously, he is looking for fun. But then I told him that I am not that kind of girl who plays around and I could see that he respected me for that.

We talked 8 hours almost everyday about different issues and things and he's one of the smartest men I've known in my life. I just felt that we have so many things in common and I admired his sensibilities and intelligence. He could be naughty from time to time, but then I shifted the topic and seemed he's pretty adjusting. We've been talking since January and until now and I could never been happier.

Like the rest of articles here, I am pretty sure he is not after of visa or money, because obviously I am not a Westerner and Philippines is pretty much a developing country like Egypt. So his motive could not be this, for sure. He has nice career too and his family is doing well. He also doesn't come up with sad stories about his life. Everything is doing well – career, friends and family.

Lately, he has been naughty again. But we never crossed into the boundaries of what is considered proper and modest. Sometimes, I am wondering if he really loves me. But I could see it in his eyes and how he discussed his plans in the future and how I am a big part of it. He wanted me to be his wife and build a family together. Sometimes, I think that he's holding on to have fun and be naughty. But going back, if he really wanted just like that, he could chose someone else and not spending hours and hours talking about serious things.

Anyway, just worried maybe he is married. They said that educated, stable Egyptians at the age of 25 is normally taken already. I am 24 and in the Philippines, predominantly Christian, people are getting married not that early, as education and career is very much important. Lately, he's not online as much as before, mainly because he was busy. At least that's what he told me. Of course all information I had is provided by him. I trust him but sometimes, I questioned his intention, his background, everything. I think this is just normal for a girl who is in love.

His sister married last March and I saw that the furniture were place in his bedroom. Is that normal? After the wedding, he was not online for more than 1 week. I suspect he was on honeymoon. That he was the one who got married and not his sister. Lol. I am just being suspicious. Anyway, I love him so much and I wish I will not be broken hearted. Please advice me. First on his motive and secondly, on how will I know if he's married or not and lastly, if he really loves me. How will I know for sure? Thank you very much.

Anyway, I used the name of my friend and email to protect my anonymity. He might stumble on this site :) thanks for understanding.

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