To Bewildered

Submitted by Fyldefolly (United States), May 26, 2009 at 09:45

The Tunisian guy I married stole from me (I am still in debt), lied to me and cheated on me. This is just the way they are; what their society, family and religion make them in to and is no reflection on you. You must accept that all the time you shared, the sweet words, the attention, the fun times were ALL FALSE; ALL LIES. Therefore, any feelings you have for him are in your imagination because they can only exist in truth, and there was no truth in your relationship.

Having had further relationships with other Tunisian men since (and they were all the same as my ex - but I was fully prepared and just wanted to be a 'bitch'); seen first hand the way they treat all women (even their mothers and wives); seen first hand the way they treat other tourist men and women - I cannot find any respect for these kind of people (as they are as far from 'men' as anyone could ever imagine).

Stop being angry, feeling used and thinking you are still 'in love' with him because you are still letting him control you. He is still the winner as long as you feel this way. You were loving, trusting and kind with him - He was, and still is, a liar, cheat and a thief. The past has gone and cannot be changed - so stop living in it and forgive yourself.

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