Charms of egyptian men

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), May 26, 2009 at 18:56

Hi Amber

see how easy it is to fall for these men and I bet you had no intention of falling for one! With you being from the phillipines it does make things slightly different with the visa thing. Now, you met him online so this suggests that he does spend time on the net talking to women as this is how he met you. If he was being sexual with you then this shows that he will be doing the same with others. Good egyptian muslim men would never suggest anything sexual to a woman that he respects and loves. Do not do anything inapproprite for him ( they are persistant) as he will lose respect for you and he should not be asking this of you. There are many scams that happen on line and many lies are also told depending on what they want. They are very clever and experienced in what they do so its hard to tell the genuine ones from the scammers.

You say he has a nice career and everything is ok and not needing anything. How do you know this is true? Only time will tell and you need to follow your instincts, already you have doubts which is not good so early on. You have seen a change in his pattern already so be very cautious. I saw a change in my mans pattern too and when I voiced my concerns he always had an answer, was so convincing,charming, very sweet and calm that I thought it was me being paranoid. He too said he was busy yet in the first few months he had all the time in the world for me. Mine too disappeared for a week at a time and his excuses were lame, but I was blinded by my love for him that I let them go and deluded myself into thinking he was a good man and wouldn't lie to me.

What time does he talk to you on line, most decent egyptian men are not on line talking to women late at night, I realize now that my man is very experienced in the net as I could see him on line every night after we broke up. The men that scam are very clever, they will get you emotionally involved before they ask for anything, some take photos of you and send them to other men declaring love and requesting money for them for various excuses. I made the mistake of paying my way every time and he made much money from me for the hotels, if he loves you he will never ask for anything, its not his culture.

Dont give him anything or fund your own way if ever he wants to meet you, I am now broke as I made that mistake and now he has moved on to the next victim.

If he has a good job and is higher up the social ladder then he probably will be married as he can afford this, he may be looking for a second wife maybe? All I know Amber is they often say they have a sister who often is their wife, and they accept this as they all financially benefit. I don't think there is a way to find out if they are married, you have to go with your instincts as they are always right, mine was, i can see very clearly now how he conned me with his sweet words,declaring undying love even after I said I had no money and wouldn't get married so quick but then things were not moving as quickly as he wanted and so he moved on to his other women who I now realize he had all along as I have proof of this.

This is a site for giving advice and I have to tell it as I know , but there are some relationships that do work, but your man does i'm sorry to say leave me with suspicion and doubt.

Follow your head and those instincts, act on those doubts, I wish I did. All the best in what you decide take care

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