to amber

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), May 28, 2009 at 15:17

amber please take note of the advice on here especially the constructive advice from the regular bloggers who are well aware of the pitfalls and heartach, as many have been to hell and back. You seem to be asking the right questions and have doubts which are niggling you, these are the insticts we are all struggling with, and us women seem to have an uncanny knack of feeling things that are not quite what they seem. Its whether you act on this instinct .

Only you will decide which path to take. It may be the right one , but still a bumpy ride, or the wrong one .. Who can tell if someone is who they say they are, if they are single married, rich poor..You can try to get to know the person by visiting, but is this enough. ???? Doubts eat away at you, and engulf your time and your life. The scammers are grooming you to endulge in their games whatever they may be. It could be financial, sex or visa. Its usually the money first - Also as stated previously The wife could be hiding somewhere when you do visit. Read flydfollys bloggs, it will open your eyes to just how these guys deceive and latch onto your vulnerabilities.

Im not quite sure of this guys motives however... Please keep your wits about you make a diary and log down your texts and conversations if you feel you need to -it may trip him up. But believe me they are damn clever..oh something else - if you do keep a dairy of events emails texts so on etc if anything does go wrong you have all the evidence you need. just a thought.....i know of someone who did need the emails etc to get justice done...

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