Immigration Fraud

Submitted by Stephanie (United States), May 29, 2009 at 19:43

I guess you could say I experienced something similar even though I never married the man. I met Sameh, an Egyptian about four years ago and he was so kind at first. We knew each other as friends for about a year and another year we started to get cozy. I ended visiting his family and staying with him in Cairo Egypt for two months. I was fortunate. I was already married and my husband wouldn't give me a divorce. I really thought Sameh loved me. While in Cairo he tried to get me to marry him with by some Attorney but it all sounded wrong to me. I was already married to someone in the USA and I just wouldn't do it. I told him I had to go back, finalize my divorce and then we could marry.

I came back to the states after two months and Sameh followed expecting my divorce to be finalized quickly. When things took longer than expected he became a different man. He was very unkind to me, always losing his temper with me and telling me where my place should be or how I should be acting. He said derrogatory remarks about women but I kept remembering how he was in Cairo and I thought it was just the stress of being in a new place that made him that way.

We lived together in the states off and on for about three months and he was so mean the whole time except in sex. I finally asked him to go live with cousins in California until I could complete my divorce. My husband still delayed the process and Sameh grew incredibly crazy about it. He had online friends he seem to chat with alot. When we were together even and I remember him chatting with one woman, "Amy" who seem totally crazy about him. He had told me in December of 2007 if my divorce didn't get finalized, well she would marry him for the greencard or at least give him a fiance visa. He said it jokingly but to me it was not a joke.

Sameh and I kept talking everyday after he left. He called me sometimes yelling, telling me I gave him this f*ck life here in the states cause he came here for me. He was constantly blaming me for all his hardships. Then he'd be loving to me and make me think he it was just stress again. He always said he loved me every day unless he was yelling at me:). I ended up sending him so much money and co-sponsoring him. He kept telling me that he took care of me the whole time in Egypt and if I helped him, that when everything was finalized he'd be there for me and help me in my divorce, etc...

Well February, 2008 came and there were so many signs that he was lying and I just chose to overlook it. I tell you the truth I do blame myself bu=t I still can't believe he was this way. I adored him in Egypt and before I went to Egypt for the two years we spoke. I managed to get him a cell phone off my own plan because he kept hassling me to do so and realized he was talking to this other woman a whole lot around March of 2008. When I asked him about it he said I invaded his privacy and managed to get his cousins to get him another phone.

Still he called me every day three times a day saying he loved me, sending me roses to my work and on valentines day stuffed animals. He came to see me for weeks at a time and you know...he totally swoon me. May of 20078came around and he told me he was going to marriy some total stranger...some woman in New Jersey.

Still, he wanted to marry me through the mosque and he loved me so much. By this time I atl east stopped sending money but he did have my sponsorship papers which I never wanted to do. As you remember he told me I was the cause of his f*ck life. He yelled this to me when I went too slow getting the papers done. He also said to me he would never ever hurt me.

After he married this woman, about three days after, he came to see me and we spent a week together. We talked still every day for the next nine months and he came to see me again February 2009. We spent another whole week together and then I ended up giving him in the next three months, probably around 2000 dollars. He was always worried, if he could manage this or eat or that and I remember hating to see him suffer. He was so kind and nice and then his two year papers came through. This was April 2009.

A month ago he acted funny, stole my password to yahoo and got on my id. He asked me if I was seeing someone else and even though my husband and I hadn't really made up I wasn't divorced yet because I had given all my extra money to him. I seriously hadn't been seeing anyone and truthfully I loved him. He accused me cheating even still but said he could always forgive me. Then he begged me to say I'd always have him in my life and he said he always wanted me in his life. I thought he was really acting weird. I asked what did he mean by always having me in his life. I told him I wasn't sure I wanted to marry him but I wanted to see in normal circumstances if we would be ok and I didn't have the plans of just being sex buddies forever.

I started a relationship with full intent on having it lead somewhere. We had made arrangement to meet in July for a month just to spend together. He said with the way things were in his life financially he wouldn't probably be ready to marry any other woman for atleast 7 years, having to pay his bills back home, the money he owed the woman he married here etc for his greencard...I thought God. It bothered me so much.

For a year and half he kept saying he came here for me, that he wanted only me, that he loved only me, that he only had sex with me etc.. and then he was acting indifferent. I did know he didn't live with his wife during the whole time as well. So after a few days of knowing I was upset he told me he really did want to marry me and have kids etc..and we had a nice conversation. The next day He applied for a university in the state he was residing in and I got upset. He wasn't supposed to stay there permanently. He was supposed to try to get closer to me and we had talked the whole time about this. He got angry with me when I felt upset and said for me not to contact him if I was going to cause him more stress. He really started getting completely mean if he felt I wasn't being agreeable.

A week ago he angry with me because we'd talk about our fantasies on the phone and his was kind of out there...I mean orgy sex. He wanted group sex. I couldn't believe it. What did American life just totally corrupt him or was he always like this? He always said he wanted to do all his fantasies with me so I asked him at that time if he really wanted to do what he said and he abruptly said to me he'd go and when my mind wasn't so f*ck up then I could reach him again. I was so hurt and of course I wrote upset to him. He just ignored me for a week and then I wrote a letter to someone I knew that he knew and asked if they could give his things to him since he wouldn't respond to me.

After this he called me screaming that he'd lost his job because of my letter and said by the way...he'd married the woman that he was speaking with back in Novomber of 2007..February of 2008 etc. "Amy" She wasn't even pretty and she was very big:(= :(

He lied to me the whole time. For me I know it was my fault. There were many signs after he got to the USA but I kept wanting to see the man I met in Egypt. I will be ok since all I lost was a little money (about 8000 dollars and a sponsorship) and my part of my heart. I am trying to fix my life with my husband since he does love me. I did write to Homeland Security everything and I hope something comes out of it. I knew this woman he married. She lived five hours away from where he was living for the whole time that they have been married. I sent people they could contact to prove this. I am so sad because I really thought he was a good man and that he card for me and also I feel so used. My one quest is to get out of the co-sponsor thing. All I know is he did do everything just to get a stupid greencard.
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Stephanie

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