sink or swim?

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), May 31, 2009 at 17:57

Hi becreative

thanks for your reply, glad you had a nice holiday, it seems you know exactly how theseEgyptian men operate but you cant let go. yes its very hard to end things when you have a glimmer of hope that yours might be genuine. you are taking a big risk and iv'e heard women say that they will enjoy it while it lasts, knowing that it will end one day deluding themselves into thinking they will handle it when it does, but what they do not realize is yes, like you say they get deep into your heart and soul making you need them more and more and believe me its not easy at all to follow your head and end it.

I couldn't sleep, concentrate at work, had no motivation to do anything and shed many tears, still do! and many stay in these relationships because they can't face ending something so beautiful in their lives, this hollywood dream, this addiction for the attention we get, the love we feel for our gorgeous exotic man, the love that blinds us so much that we strive to find correct answers to any doubts we feel so we can say to ourselves, mine is different! But they are not, because they go to great lengths to win us over and we have to ask why?

I can see you are so in love and this is what they aim for , for you to be emotionally dependant on them. I knew what I had to do, I had to face the facts I had no future with him , I could never trust, mine wanted to know when i was going over to get married and because I couldn't tell him when.... he moved on. if I had told him a date then I knew he would of waited and he would of put on his best acting performance to make sure I went! But he wasn't sure and he must of got a better offer or another plan that worked quicker. Think about your situation! think about what lies ahead and do you really want to take the risk. The pain is hard now but it may destroy you later.

best intentions x think!

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