Wishing

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jun 1, 2009 at 18:58

Hi Stephanie

you have been through a really bad experience and it won't be easy to mend your broken heart. I knew of this site but thought my man was good, but looking back I realize I didn't want to believe he was like the others, I was so blinded by love. I think you were blinded too? From your posting it seems you also put up with things that you knew were not right, the only way I can describe it is we loved our man so much that we were desperate to prove to ourselves that all our doubts about him were wrong, so we waited and waited for the outcome knowing full well we were taking a big risk only to find that our doubts and fears were right. It is only now we realize that we should of put a stop to all this a long time ago, you invested much more than me as I did finally tell mine where to go! he goaded me with saying he had another woman and that was enough for me to end it for good .I realize he had many women so although i still long for him, I am glad I am out of it all.

Don't blame yourself, in time your wounds like mine will heal, we will move on whilst they continue to use and cheat others for their own benefit. We need to pity the women who are with them now because they won't be happy for long, if they can lie and cheat they will always be capable of this so lets remind ourselves that WE DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS. Why should we let them bring us down? it will take time but remember, you don't need him anymore!

Try to look forward now, there's a better life for you without him, you'll see

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