It really ripped my heart out

Submitted by anonymous (United States), Jun 3, 2009 at 09:16

But last night I broke up with my Arab boyfriend. He is from Saudi Arabia, and seems (relatively) devout.

I still love him. But he wanted me to change so much about my life. I am a christian, and I'm also relatively strong in my beliefs. He seemed to use a lot of emotional blackmail, and I couldn't tell if it was just part of his culture. But something just wasn't right.

I had been in an emotionally abusive marriage for 9 years, and separated for 1 year when I met him, five months ago. I saw many of the same controlling signals in him which were in my ex husband. But again, I couldn't tell if it was just cultural. He seemed so sincere and heartfelt and sweet in so many ways. He really put a spell on me. And my heart is still aching.

I am so worried I am gonna regret this. I miss him so much already. He even said that if it had to do with the fact that he wanted to raise any children we had in Islam, then he would forgo having children in order not to lose me. I'm so sad. Please tell me I am doing the right thing.

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