Re Doing the right thing

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Jun 4, 2009 at 16:16

I think you're wise in not falling into the same trap of being controlled and middle eastern men are famous for their controlling ways. The sweetness before marriage is very typical and you, like many of us, are like an insect caught in the sticky web they weave. What comes after marriage is the real self hidden by charm at this point. You've seen the warning signs and are very wise and brave to heed these warnings. Don't sell out for a pretty story and charm. Know that they deceive without hesitation to get what they're after. Read all the posts here and you'll see so many similarities. You don't say one critical thing - does he already have citizenship in your country or could he be looking for a visa / green card ?

Wish you the best. Please proceed with the greatest of caution should you decide to continue to communicate with him.

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