You are doing the right thing

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Jun 5, 2009 at 14:08

What makes those muslim lovers so effective is that they wait till you emotionally invested in a relationship- and only then start to show a little of their true colors...

Thats why its a loss-loss situation- you would either succumb to their demands completely or break the relationship up- and have to deal with mountain of emotinal pain...

The only thing is the pain will eventually ease but the demands will never end- and you would lose your mental/physical health plus even meeting all of his demands does not guarantee he stays with you (when you grow older and less sexually attractive- even the prophet Muhamad wanted to divorce his older wife Sauda bint Zama- he only kept her cause she was smart enough to give up her day of having sex- to prophet favourite child wife- Aisha)

You cannot exlude having children as there is no 100 % contaceptive- besides for a muslim it is not an option- in that case he either plans to have other wives (or he already has children).

Please break all the contact- as some of the men are quite skilled smooth talkers- you wont sort out anything but end up with even more emotional pain...

Woman fall in love not with Dilara, Ahmed or Mustafa

but in the product of her own imagination

someone that exists only in her dream of a blissful relationship

In the end she is the victim of her own longing

that made her see too less and too much.

Take care,

M.

Your story and your pain really saddened me- I will remember you in my prayers...

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