Your pain

Submitted by bewildered (United Kingdom), Jun 5, 2009 at 15:16

Hi anonymous

its been 5 months and he has stolen your heart already. arab men seem to have a way of getting deep into our hearts and soul, but you are clearly thinking about the red flags that are obvious here. Yes it is their culture to be in control of their women and its nice in one way as we think its because they love us, but we are very different from their women who are brought up to obey and serve their husbands. You have to ask yourself can he love you so much that he is willing to not have children for you after 5 months? Muslim men strive to marry and have children, its what their religion expects of them and if children come along then they would definitley be muslim.

All the promises my man made to me changed when things were not going his way, it is a big risk to take with these men, go with your gut feelings, already you feel something isn't right, my heart is so broken too and I think about him every minuite of the day, but I knew I had to get away as I was sad more than happy in the relationship, mostly because I felt his words were too good to be true and his actions didn't match his words, I was having too many doubts.

If they love us so much but seem dodgy, disappear for a while or make feeble excuses then this is not love it is them using us for their own gain, I know this now . Also because we love them so much they make us think we are in the wrong, we question ourselves are we being paranoid? then it gets to a point where we start to brush things under the carpet because we don't want to lose the attention and words of love they give us, it then becomes addictive and then its even harder to leave. You will miss him, you will crave for him so much as I do but I know I did the right thing and as time goes on it will get easier. I believe yes you have done the right thing, be strong and remember how would you feel with a man controlling you all your life?

Stick to what your head is telling you and I wish you all the best

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