My relationship with a moroccan man is confusing me

Submitted by Tiffany (United States), Jun 6, 2009 at 02:06

I am 22 and he just turned 24 and I have been with him for a little over a year. When we met it was like fire and within a week I moved in with him. At first everything was perfect he couldn't wait to see me he would even wake me up before he would go to work just to kiss me. Then several months later he was still affectionate sometimes, but it was just not the same.

Then he tells his friend thqt he's over me going out with my friends ect. and breaks up with me. The whole time we're broken up he called and texted me everyday asking me what I was doing. Eventually, telling me to come back home. (When he broke up he was literally crying saying he didn't love me.) So then later on he says his brother needs to come here and wants me to marry him. He said it wasn't a big deal if I didn't want to do it we would be together no matter what. This bothered me because I was thinking since we are living together maybe we can take it a step up.

After being together for 8 months he asked me to fly to morocco with him. I said I would go on the condition that he tells his family that we are together. He said he did. So we're supossed to take 3 flights and after thefirst flight I get really sick and can't get on the next plane. So he flies with his bitch ass moroccan wife (paper only they're both moroccan suposedly) leaving me at the airport.

Well, finally I reschedule the flight and make it there by myself. While I am there his family treated me well, but then I figured out that he lied and didn't tell his family that we were together instead he told them that I was"a friend that he worked with that might marry his brother.) I was extremely pissed but I told his sister about us living together and his brother already knew.

WHen I confronted him he said,"well they know because of how I acted with you staying out late and stuff/." THen fast foward were here and I/'m going out with my friend and he tells me to not come back he's going to change the locks. wouldn't even give me a reason. After staying gone a day or two I convinced him to let me back even though he was treating me like shit.

Now he works 7 days a week when I ask him to take a day off or spend time with me he straight up tells me no because,"all we would do is fight." Even on his days off previously he would pathetically go hang out at work. He doesn't listen to me doesn't tell me anything like he does the other people at work. I feel like the only thing he wnts me to do is clean up after him and... him. Like he just takes me for granite.

Oh and previously before we broke up the first time his other arabic friend was telling me that he was referring to me as "whore" and "the whore" ect which he lied about and it wasn't until a few days ago that he admitted it but said he didn't meant it that way. But suposedly his other friend referred to me as a whore and he went off on them

so here it is am I wasting my time with him? SHould I just get out now

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