my heart was ripped out

Submitted by jackie (Argentina), Jun 6, 2009 at 09:59

Hi, My case is similar. I too fell in love but with a Turkish man. I am separated and have children, a fact that I did not hide from him. We held an online relationship that was very intense, sharing evreyday activities. He met my children and I met his brother over the net.. He reffered to himself as my boyfriend and said I was his love and his heart. We had also promised to be faithful to each other till we were together.

Since I live far we made plans to meet now on July 5 in Antalya, and I was to spend my 4 weeks of holiday with him, first there then to Istambul, where he lives and works ( he had only 15 days). On May 11 his brother got married, so he was busy with all the preparations. All this time we communicated more, by text message and I called on mobile phone. All was July 5, I had plane reservations and was waiting for confirmation on hotel.

Two weeks ago he tells me to cancel all plans to go, because he must work , his brother will take the holiday. I suggested I go anyway or in September, he said we would talk about it. Since then communication has been each day less. He will not talk to me or tell me what happened. I have cried my eyes out If it must finish ok, but I do not know why. This kills me. Any suggestions as to why.

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