debs

Submitted by becreative (United Kingdom), Jun 6, 2009 at 16:20

hi debs margarets advice seems very sound advice to me. We are all victims of these guys in one way or another. I think they are very good at turning the tables and making you feel the guilty one. My guy or should i say husband is now telling me of every family that visits his parents, last week it was a belgian family this week from uk and muslim family with a son wanting to meet his family. Not sure what hes trying to achieve -make me feel jealous??not sure?? but the twists and turns are ongoing and in the end your head is in bits. Sometimes my husband telephones late evening and im wondering if this is the intention to see if we are infact getting on with our own lives.. not out on the tiles or someone actually in our own beds........now that would be a surprise woudnt it. The thing is we get to a point where we are actually losing control.... we are the ones left hanging and they are inevitably having fun with the lads as usual. I get really arsy when he telephones and i cant even hear him because of the music from tv or a party in the background. ....sound familier.??? im a fine one to talk as i am battling as a lot are on here with our feelings, emotions etc , but be strong dont upset your family for something that may never be, i have a daughter of a similar age and it would be too traumatic at this time in her life to upheave everything . And.........they actually tend to pick on vulnerable women like ourselves with children, of a similar age.. just be careful the sings are too familier here and i need help just as much as you , writing this is helping me believe me. good luck keep posting as the guys on her will give you advice. H

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