Reply to Amber

Submitted by Just_Me (United States), Jun 7, 2009 at 06:15

Hey,

We still talk daily. There is no way I could ever wear a bikini or clothes that would show my skin. He is very against that...cause like all muslim men, he wants to be the only one that sees my body, which he did see when we were alone. Yes, we rented a flat. I had to give the guy a copy of my passport (which I didn't want to do), and we never got in trouble or anything. No questions asked. We did get questioned once in Cairo (at the Egyptian museum), otherwise, nobody stopped us or denied us anything.

I let him lead me through everything since this is what men do. He should always be guiding you, translating for you, paying for you, etc.

Even though we have talked for a year, and I've seen him twice, there is no way I can fully trust him. Men are men, and even when you're with them you must still think logically about what they say and do. Do not fully trust him. Make tests for him, save old chat transcripts, check for alternate websites or email addresses pertaining to him....be on guard and don't get caught up in the moment. I dont know what will happen for my egyptian and me...we have different opinions on raising children, otherwise everything is great.

I just can't raise my children to be muslim. He said he will not let them go to church with me....that is agianst his law, etc. So I imagined having a 3 year old baby with him, and the child crying while I left to go to church, but I couldnt take my child with me....and that's the reason why I can't marry this Muslim guy....for my children that I want to have.

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".