To Zella concerning Taboo Muslim relationships

Submitted by me, i will not post my name (United States), Jun 8, 2009 at 10:30

Zella, Islam may preach that dating is Taboo but it happens even among Muslim men and women and teenage boys and girls...They have boyfriends/girlfriends, even the ones that are brought up with fathers being a Devout Muslim always with the Quaran out reading...... For example my husband's brother has a girlfriend at school...My husband had a steady girlfriend in college who later left him to marry a rich man at her mom's request, he dated a Moroccan woman several months before me. His sister has a boyfriend she secretly is in a relationship with that buys her expensive gifts while traveling and I bet there is intamacy in exchange.... She has confided only in me but I keep no secrets from her brother and when he asked, I revealed her secret who she is dating (a resturaunt owner), but he was not surprised and did not comment, for she is divorced and with kids and seem happier these days. He knows its her life so he will not tell her he even knows and she spent the night away from home at a baby shower while i was there and that morning her kids where with the young servant girl (about 13-14?)sleeping as we were leaving on our honeymoon.....I bet she was not at party at least all night. I think the women are just a little more discret and so are the men involved but it is happening. I know my husband said he quit praying (prays the 5 times) while I was there because in Islam sex without marriage is dirty and even though he knew he had good intentions(marrying me) he still knew he was sinning against Allah's wishes so he just refrained from prayers. He is a good person, doesn't smoke drink, gives to the poor, helps thy neighbors, etc but he is human like all other men.....I talked with him about waiting til after we were married like his father requested of him and I left it to him cause I did not want him to have any regrets with us later, but he assured me his intensions was pure and Allahe will forgive knowing this. My husband feels that at least 90% of the women there would sell themselves for money and is why he says he could not love a Moroccan woman. (he has 5 sisters(3 single))This is his opinion as well as other Moroccan men looking elsewhere for love. He says they are hard to love, that usually they don't look at what is inside the heart...American women want love, and Moroccan women want money and goods that most of these men do not have. I know there are many scammers are there and my husband will be the first to agree but there are also good men who just want a good relationship with someone who cares just for him.

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