Response to Adi on Divorce and Marriage, Pakstani man, Israel, UK

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 8, 2009 at 15:54

Hi there Adi, and thanks for sharing!

I realize that this is a difficult situation, but I remember reading a similar one here before.

The trouble with these kinds of affairs is that they really are only temporary. You are about to walk away from your husband and family for a fleeting chance with a man who could very well just be using you as a side dish. I'm really wondering if this man you like from England is really even married, and if he is just trying to calibrate his situation to yours to make you feel better for doing what he wants. It's a trick that guys who know the dating game often play.

I really think, Adi, that these cases of mutual divorce often end sour and bitter for the women. I used to have a friend whose father left her and her family for a woman he met on-line. The result: he totally alienated his relationship with his family. If you do this, you run the risk of hurting your kids and they may not want to repair the damage.

Also, if he really is married and wants to leave his wife now, Adi, what's to stop him from leaving you if he finds someone else he likes more?

Do this Adi, and I promise you at some stage, you'll regret it. I'm the same age as you, and I don't know if you are talking to this Pakistani man because your current marriage has problems, but if so, this is NOT the way to deal with them.

The fact that you want us to help you decide---it tells me that you really don't trust this man. If you did, Adi, you would not need complete strangers to help you out on-line. I am glad you are here, but it's imperative that you understand why and what is really going on here.

These situations never really have the riding into the sunset ending.

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