Thanks Guys

Submitted by Debs (United Kingdom), Jun 8, 2009 at 16:41

Hi ladies,

Thanks for your responses it has made me think I am not losing my mind and being paranoid. Something has changed and and for what reason I am still unsure of. You have all given me something to think about.

I would like to point out that when I was there, no females were hanging around he has no sisters and certainly no female cousins who acted strange in any way, the ones I met all were married and had kids and met the husbands etc... I am 99% sure that he is not married or anything like that. But I do think maybe he has met someone else maybe another western lady or Egyptian who knows I am sure it will come out in the end. I am agreeing with Isis that most Egyptian people are happy in there country and don't really want to leave, from the people I have met they all seem happy to be there although life can be hard they tend to get by and live a reasonable happy comfortable life. I feel confused part of me is saying maybe our relationship has run its course and will be too complicated for both of us to continue but part of me is saying no it can work and I wont let silly things ruin what could be.

I wont defend him as he has changed towards me and the reasons for him being distant I would like to believe but when I have read so many bad stories it makes me wonder if he just like the bad ones out there. He knows I am fully aware of scammers and what some men do, in fact he tells me some stories he hears from locals and says he will never let me meet these people they are trash, but they are words that are easy to say. So my words to him are your behaviour is showing me you are like them, but maybe in a more softer way.

I sit here and wonder how all these men can all be the same are they brought up to treat women this way and I am sure they also do this to there wifes from there own culture in fact I know some do from people I know, is this normal????

I know I love him but will not be blinded by love, I have a son who needs me to be strong and to take care of him and thats what I will continue to do. I will find out whats going on with him I am sure of this.

But I will not make myself emtional drained or stressed I have better things to do, I just needed to hear from women who have had similar situations.

Betty please feel free to tell me about your experience if you want to on this website.

Thanks to you all I feel much better now and need to just see what my destiny is.

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