Your man trying to get you back and expecting the same

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Jun 9, 2009 at 17:21

Hi Steph!

Those are some really excellent points, and I think you know quite a bit. I do sympathize with what is happening to you, Steph, but be assured you are not alone.

I've had my share of on-line relationships, and it truly is amazing how some of the not-so-nice people that you date end up trying to get back into your life.

Just recently, my parents started receiving collection calls from a credit card company, asking for my ex girlfriend. Apparently, she either gave them my folks's number or just claimed to have lived there, which she did not.

Then, another woman, whom I met in person at a party once and dated (before she left me for her disturbing ex-finacee), is now trying to get back together with me. Of course, she's having family issues and just broke up with someone, so I guess it's natural for her to seek me out again so she can use me all over again.

Having these men come after you again does not surprise me in the least, Stephanie, and be assured they are not always that easy to get rid off. I have often recommended to women on this site to even uninstall chat programs and block numbers and to keep the phone off and to go out and treat themselves----see family, friends, interact with people in real life and just get away from the computer.

Also, expecting your on-line partner to act the same as you: I expect that what attracts women to these men, aside from the fact that they are often younger and good looking---is that they are supposedly traditional because they come from the 2nd or 3rd World.

What I have found out is that many people who date on-line are either scammers or have some kind of social struggle (such as a divorce, which is common on here, but among younger people it's usually more social isolation) and they seek attention. Others have a documented mental illness, like depression or OCD.

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