Response to Amber Rose

Submitted by Just_Me (United States), Jun 9, 2009 at 22:28

Dear Amber,

Yes, we spoke and I told him I am not compromising on our issue of raising children. We speak everyday for the most part except for when he goes to this other city. He lives in Alex but he grew up somewhere else. I guess he goes back for a few days once a month to see his friends, tend to his land, and collect rent (as I guess he owns a building there). I really don't care if he is lying to me anymore because I have broken my attatchment to him. Yes, I still want to learn Arabic in Egypt. Yes, I still want to see him, but I will not fall for him.

I think the best thing you can do is to stay offline and surround yourself with your friends. Go out to restaurants, go out to different places to distract yourself from him. Read a book instead of chatting with him. Seriously, it's possible to forget about him. Men are from different cultures but a man is still a man.

I met a guy in Italy 2 years ago, we stayed in touch online and had a long distance relationship. I went to see him 2 or 3 times in Italy. The more attention I gave him, the less he wanted me. Now a year later (we still talk), he wants me again and thankfully I do not want him back. You will reach a time when you do not think about him anymore, and then he will be pursuing you.

Men lie, they can turn off their feelings as easily as they turn them on, they play mind games, they say things they don't mean, they pretend to have feelings when they don't. Everybody always says how simple men are, but really they are complicated just like women, lol.

Let's be real, if he doesn't talk to you for 2 weeks, it's because he doesn't want to talk to you. If he wanted to talk to you and hear your voice, he would make it happen. You should watch that movie called He's Just Not That Into You. Trust me, he could send you SMS, he could call you, he could send offline messages, he could email, he could do so many things and the fact that he isn't shows you how he feels for you.

Ignore him, and when he contacts you, keep ignoring him for at least 1-2 weeks.

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