For Amber Rose

Submitted by Zella (United States), Jun 12, 2009 at 17:56

I'm sorry that you have been used and abused but unfortunately this is usually the outcome of on-line relationships and even in-person relationships with the type of men that are described on this blog. Let me just say that the dead giveaway is the "L" word - LOVE. These men do not marry for love and they don't have long courtships (completely taboo). However, they have watched many western movies and have learned that western women become putty in their hands if they use the "L" word. Muslim women learn at a young age if they want "love" they should "love" their sons. Not their daughers but their sons. When I read the postings on this blog, I am amazed at how quickly western women will relinquish their freedoms and beliefs to men who do not have any respect for women. These men want one thing and that is to find a way to earn enough money to pay the "bride price" or provide for their own needs. Even those who are married and pose as being single and so in love with western women ask for money and then use it mostly for their own narcissistic needs. These men are sociopaths. They do not have any feelings for anyone except self.

Just remember that the well educated, intelligent men in Muslim countries do not have to stoop to the level of hanging out in internet cafes or engaging in on-line so-called relationships. It is the uneducated men from lower socio-economic families who spend their idle time trying to see who they can use and abuse. Trust me, when they come to this country they do not change. The old adage, "you can take the boy out of the country but you can't take the country out of the boy" says it all.

If a man from any country, any culture, any religion ever asked me for money, he would definitely get a good tongue lashing. I was raised with the knowledge that no decent man ever asks a woman for money unless it is his wife and then he is expected to pay her back. Working Muslim women do not have to contribute one penny of their money to the household unless she so desires. A man who cannot take care of his family is looked down upon in this culture as well as in many western cultures.

Good luck with your graduate studies. Get your education and take care of yourself. One day you will find a man who deserves an intelligent woman, decent woman.

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