Don't beat yourself up

Submitted by Pandora (United States), Jun 13, 2009 at 00:16

Be, I've rebounded like 4 times already. But I am done too. Once and for all. I'm seeing a therapist, have been honest and open with my friends, and have even met a gal at work who married a Turk--and he beat her right after they got married. We made a mistake of judgment--no need to keep kicking yourself, we're good people. At least you know now, before it got deeper, more serious.

My best revenge is getting educated on it. I've read a couple of good titles: They must be stopped by Brigitte Gabriel; Former muslims speak out; Rage against the veil; and Because they hate-Brigitte gabriel.

I prefer to think of this as a learning experience, another tool in my belt. And like Straight Talk Luigi, I am going to use it to help others who feel drawn (like I have been) to men like this. The power of attention and attraction is a potent delusion indeed. You're only human to have been pulled by it. Some of the ways I am coping is a) joining a volunteer group--dog rescue in my area, b) using this experience to help others, c) working out vigorously whenever I miss him/feel like returning, and d) reading up on books that will further help me.

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