I'm hurt,confused, upset, HELP!

Submitted by Suspicious (United States), Jun 15, 2009 at 23:25

First I would like to thank every person who have shared their stories, suggestions or opinions. I came across this blog a few months ago and was shocked of all the horror stories. I've been reading here and there and thought that I had learned from your experiences, but NO!

I just came back from a 10 day trip to Jordan and Egypt where I spent what I thought to be the most wonderful holiday of my life with my Jordanian Prince. I met him back in November 2008 because he was my tour guide into Petra. Started emailing then phone calls and messages everyday, love words, marriage and visa came up after one month of meeting each other which made me very suspisious and I told him that.

He dropped the subject for a while and few months later brought it up again, I told him that I didn't trust him and we would need to know each other more. He asked me to go see him in May I told him I couldn't that it was too soon I could go in October he said no too long if you don't come in May or June I'm not waiting for you. Even after reading in here about red flags and warning bells, I completely ignore all of them. I had many doubts to the point that I tried to cancel the trip twice but again he blinded me with love words.

SO, on May 31st I flew to Amman and he went to pick me up at the airport with his cousin. We spent 3 days talking about marriage, and just getting to know each other until he convinced me of sleeping with him. At first I refused but again he convinced me and well I wanted too because I love him and needed him.

We went to Egypt for 5 days and while there he told me that our relationship wasn't going to work because his mother didn't approve of him marrying a westerner and that my parents would never accept him also because he knew that I wouldn't move to Jordan and he didn't want to move to America because of the financial situation here. In other words, he gave so many excuses about why we couldn't be together even though we love each other. I asked him that if he felt this way why he kept talking about marriage, he said well if you want let's get married just for fun, I completely refused.

He asked me to just make the best of the trip, enjoy the time, enjoy each other and so I did. I cried here and there and he cried with me. We shared family stories, secrets, dreams, opinions and much more. He asked me that once I came back to America we could still be friends forever, I told him I wasn't sure if I could because I loved him so much and that it would hurt me to know if he someday marry someone else, he cried like a baby.

On the last day in Egypt I told him that I still had doubts about his feeling an intentions with me, he told me you can check my email and see for yourself that I have no secrets and he gave me his password the problem was I didn't have access to a computer while there.

I returned on June 10th, when he dropped me at the airport he was very cold we just shaked hands and he turned around and left in a hurry. I later asked him why he acted this way he said because he hates goodbyes and because he didn't want me to cry.

On my way back I had a layover in LAX and decided to go online, something inside me told me to check his email do I did. I came across many emails from different women and emails from him charming them using the same love words he used with me, he even had the nerve to use some Spanish words I taught him with other women. I felt my heart shattered in pieces and felt like I was going to pass out.

The next day I confronted him and the first thing he said was that it hurt that I didn't trust him and that he never thought I would check his email. He denied everything and said he kept in touch because they are work related friends and give him business. I was so upset told him I was sick of his lies and didn't deserve to be betrayed this way when I gave him many opportunities to be honest, I asked him not to call ever again.

It's been 4 days of pain, agony, tears, confusion and stupid me wondering if he will call at least to apologize. Why, why, why?

Of all the emails I noticed that there is a woman that he has been communicating since the beginning of 2008. On some of the emails she mentions of going to Egypt in September and if they can meet there he replied not in September because of Ramadan he can't have sex but if she can go in October instead and that he's dying to see her and be with her. My question to all of you is, should I warn this lady because it seems that she is in love with him and at the same time spoil his plans? or should I just not care and move on?

Please help me out, I'm so confused, so hurt. Thank you!

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