Dear Zella !

Submitted by Amber Rose (Philippines), Jun 16, 2009 at 07:14

Hi Zella! Thank you very much for your advice. With all due respect to my Egyptian man he did not used and abused me on any way I could think of. I am pretty sure that this is not about visa or money because I am not a Westerner. I am from the Philippines, a developing country like Egypt. The only reason why I feel lonely is when he disappeared one week at a time, though he informed me during our last conversation that he will be extremely busy from work. But like they said on this blog, deceit and lies don't manifest in the relationship early on. I really don't know on his motive or intention to me.

After two weeks of being away, he just called me and proposed. I was in complete shock as I wasn't expecting him. I thought he already forgotten me and moved on with his life. I feel ecstatic right now, Zella. I hope he really feel this way towards me. You said, these men don't marry for love? Well, in my own opinion that is truly sad. I could not imagine myself marrying someone for the wrong reasons. Sure, having good looks is vital but it will fade in time. Financial stability is also a huge factor, but if there is no love I don't think someone will be completely happy and fulfilled. I am starting to realize now Zella that we have an opposing ideology about various things. Marriage is something I will contemplate for a long time. I know that once I marry him, my life will be changed forever.

Anyway, I believe that maybe there are some decent men who engaged into online relationship. Just like me who never expected to fall in-love to someone I don't know. Some odd things happen when you least expect it. Based on my thesis research, a lot people who are into online dating are educated, decent and successful people. But of course, there is a big risk trusting them totally as they could lie and fabricate things about themselves. I constantly remind myself of this reality. Not to be blinded by love and use my head.

I am just so happy right now Zella. Inshallah! Things may turn out well. Who knows?

Thank you very much for your compliment. It made me smile. Keep in touch.

Love,

Amber Rose

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