Path to self-destruction...

Submitted by Margaret (Poland), Jun 16, 2009 at 12:25

Oh my God! He proposed to me! After two weeks of being away, he called me out of the blue and told me he wants to marry me. I am sure this is not about visa or money, because as you know I am from the Philippines a developing country like Egypt. After he called, I signed in to yahoo and he was online. We talked about our future together. Oh my God, I think he's really genuine. I felt it to my core. I told him that we are still young and we need to think about marriage seriously. When we are emotionally and financially independent already and we don't need our parents help then we will settle down. We made a promise to be loyal to each other until we make this dream a reality. I am just so happy. I could not contain this heavenly feeling. I know, I am heading the same path again but what if he's different from other Egyptian Muslim?

I saw him on cam and he's pretty much exhausted from work. We talked while he was on his office desk. My worries just melt away and I am completely mesmerized again.

Amber, please calm down and read about "orfi marriages" in Egypt...

Those kind of marriages are usually proposed to western women- for a guy that kind of marriage means only one thing - sex without any responsibility- as the woman is not protected and not recognised as a wife by the law- it is a kind of "wild marriage" or "temporary marriage"...

about him being different... I wouldnt bet my old socks on that...

The usual tricks: quick marriage, periods of silence, stirring up your emotions and exlusion of any reasonal arguments, no talk about the dowry which a muslim is obliged to give to his future wife...chatting with you at work- not really responsible, is it ?If he cheats his employer what makes you so sure that he is not cheating you ?

I am pretty sure God has nothing to do with this...Amber...sorry...

Any promises contrary to Allahs law if made by a muslim are invalid- so he is not obliged to be faithful to you as Allah grants him the right to up to four wives...

the "naughty stuff "convinces me even more that he is going to propose "orfi" marriage to you...

Take care,

M.

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