Stephanie Dear !

Submitted by Amber Rose (Philippines), Jun 17, 2009 at 01:20

Stephanie Dear,

Hello. Thanks for your sincere and heart warming response. You spent sweet memories together with your Egyptian man and it'll be an agonizing process to forget him. But you made your choice to end the relationship and start your life anew. I applaud your strength to walk away, because right now I am still struggling emotionally and intellectually, if he's really genuine or not. So far, he has been kind and loving to me, except of course on the last two weeks that he's been missing. Lol. He never asked about money or any material things. Visa is out of the question, since I am Asian and not a westerner. About the marriage proposal, well I said yes and we made a promise to be loyal to each other until we met. All I know is I love him so much and I am willing to embrace the unknown. Anyway don't worry Steph, I will think about this matter carefully and will not rush on making harsh decisions about marriage.

You paint for 2 hours while he was just watching you from afar, smiling. Wow. That is so romantic. I lost count on the times I day dreamed about him. I prayed to God that we will be together soon. But there are some things you said that bothered me. He was sweet, loving and understanding before but now is a nasty, heartless man? Oh no, how could this be? I mean, how they could excellently fake a sacred feeling like love. This is almost impossible! This is the hardest thing to do. I am starting to feel worried again, after the euphoric emotion I felt. Oh Steph I am so confused right now. I can't walk away because so far I only have happy memories of him. Maybe when the time comes that his real intention will show, then I will decide.

He also said that he want to watch me sleeping and just embrace me with his arms. He discussed all his plans to me if we'll be together someday. I will always have questions and doubts but I guess it's also important to keep me guarded. I assume that you are a wonderful woman and you deserve only the best. I could not believe on he changed so suddenly. If he was indeed acting and faking all those emotions, then he's not human after all. I just pray to God that he is not like this. It will totally crush my heart and spirit.

Steph, what are the warning signs that he's not being truthful? Some of the obvious reminder is when they're asking for money. In fairness to him, he never opened a topic like this. If he's up for fun then he could chose someone else, why me? I really want to make this relationship work. Just worried about raising kids together, because expectedly they will be raised Muslims. You've been to Egypt can you tell me about their culture and tradition? How about the Egyptian people? I heard that they're one of the funniest people on earth. Anyway Steph, thank you very much. I think you're really a nice lady. 'till then, sweety!

Love,

Amber Rose

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